Saying "No"

I wrote this a few weeks ago in an email to some friends and I though you all might enjoy it:

We just finished with our relationship seminar and I was really blessed. During the after-rap with the guys and girls Alex was kind of 'complaining' women who don't respondwhen men initiate, or who keep rejecting a guy or pretending they're disinterested just to make the guy chase them.

So I popped in and said, "One time P.Lange said, 'You know a guy likes you if he comes back after you say no.' Now I'm not saying in every situation a girl should say no to a guy, but that IS what he said." There was a mini uproar from the guys.

Afterwards as everyone was leaving I heard Alex complaining about me. So I jokingly asked "What did I do now?"

Alex said, "Why did you have to say THAT?"

I laughed and then said said, "I wasn't the one who said it, I was just quoting P.Lange."

Then David chimed in, "That is wisdom actually," he said. "Because if a guy sincerely believes that it [a girl, or a relationship] is from God then he will keep pursuing the girl even when she says no, just waiting for her to hear from God like he has."

What really blessed me about what David said was the fact that those words were actually coming out of a guy's mouth. I mean, for me, ever since I heard P.Lange said that 'You know a guy likes you if he comes back after you say no,' I've always though, "I could never do that, what if he never comes back and I really do like him." Well, here was a guy point blank telling me, " Yes, what P.Lange said is true. If I was really led by God to you, I would come back if you said no."

There were so many, many things said tonight that blessed me but that was just one of them. I hope it blesses you too. Comments welcomed!!